Yashica Patodia

I am a CSE pre-final undergraduate at IIT KGP .I am an open source enthusiast and love doing cp.

LOVE!

09 Aug 2020 »

Have you guys ever fallen in love?

But did you had the courage to face that person and express your feelings? Did you had the guts to acknowledge the your potential vulnerability of needing that person? Did you have the confidence to share your fall-outs and fallacies with the person in return of no judgement and fear of letting down your self -esteem?

VULNERABILITY

Lets not make things hard for ourselves! The questions raised above have been raged in the minds of millenials galore. We do find ourselves vulnerable to our innate emotions.

The feeling when you realize when you have fallen head over heels for that person and need his presence more than anyone is definitely not empowering.You feel no-longer independent. You seem to be pre-occupied by their thoughts ,actions and almost everything about them.You have to share your TIME with them.The time which you could have actually invested on your self is now their’s.

These thoughts prevent us from expressing our feelings in the first place.The fact that you might have to place that person before your self-interest bothers your mind more than any other question.

FEAR OF REJECTION AND JUDGEMENT

The second train of thoughts which prevents us from from expressing our feelings is the Fear of rejection! What if the other person does’nt feel the same way?What if the other person doesnt consider us worthy enough? Or maybe we are not just worthy enough for them?? What if our attributes are not liked by the person?

If any of these happen to be true we would just end up making a fool out of ourself and the prior friendship which we shared would also be contaminated!!

The thought that horrifies me the most before commiting to someone is that what if I am being judged by the person for my idiosyncracies?We definitely don’t want to be judged by people who we LOVE,TRUST and CARE for. DO WE?

“It is better to be friends with the person you like rather than date the person.”

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